When You Thought I Wasn’t Looking



A message every adult should read because children
are watching you and doing as you do , not as you say.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw you hang my
first painting on the refrigerator , and I immediately
wanted to paint another one.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw you feed a
stray cat , and I learned that it was good to be kind
to animals.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw you make my
favorite cake for me , and I learned that the little
things can be the special things in life.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I heard you say a
prayer , and I knew that there is a God I could always
talk to , and I learned to trust in Him.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw you make a
meal and take it to a friend who was sick , and I
learned that we all have to help take care of each

When you thought I wasn’t looking , I saw you give of
your time and money to help people who had nothing , 
and I learned that those who have something should
give to those who don’t.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw you take care
of our house and everyone in it , and I learned we have
to take care of what we are given.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw how you
handled your responsibilities , even when you didn’t
feel good , and I learned that I would have to be
responsible when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw tears come
from your eyes , and I learned that sometimes things
hurt , but it’s all right to cry.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw that you
cared , and I wanted to be everything that I could be.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I learned most of
life’s lessons that I need to know to be a good and
productive person when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I looked at you and
wanted to say , ‘Thanks for all the things I saw when
you thought I wasn’t looking.’


Each of us (parent , grandparent , aunt , uncle , teacher , friend) influence the life of a child.

Live simply. Love generously.


17 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. nita
    Mar 18, 2009 @ 18:29:08

    yes we do, and what an awesome responsibility, your blog has mentioned all the good things, which are good to reflect on. it is also worth remembering little eyes see and remember the things that are not so good to reflect on – things are passed from one generation to another, they see and hear things that sometimes it would be better they didnt – we are all guilty and so is television. sorry, this is something every much on my heart and mind at the moment. it is good to be reminded that we also influence for good.


  2. Beth
    Mar 18, 2009 @ 18:32:31

    Little eyes see everything! We need to be very careful of the things we are doing.


  3. Curtis
    Mar 18, 2009 @ 18:34:33

    beautiful my friend. Hugs to you and may God bless


  4. Terry's
    Mar 18, 2009 @ 18:37:35

    that was so sweet Rhonda . Very true .I loved the way this was worded . I was glad I was a kind person cause my daughter is very kind too . Little Emma will be too as her mommy is very kind too .love and hugs Terry


  5. Gill.
    Mar 18, 2009 @ 18:42:06

    lovely blog here Rhonda. Some very true words here. HUgs Gill. xx


  6. Bonnie
    Mar 18, 2009 @ 18:58:32

    Amen to this blog. Little ears hear everything too.Saying I love you often is very important.


  7. m60a3
    Mar 18, 2009 @ 19:59:55

    Thank you for sharing this with us my friend. The little ones are smarter than we know. Great wrttingPeace


  8. No
    Mar 18, 2009 @ 20:09:23

    Our impressions, actions & words are imprinted on our childrens & grandchildrens minds. We need to be so careful how we act in front of children. Love from your Aussie friend…x0x


  9. Sue
    Mar 18, 2009 @ 20:33:37

    Our kids are the one who sometime show us the waywe need to show them more of the good in our heartsbeautiful blogTake careSue


  10. Robin
    Mar 19, 2009 @ 02:21:59

    Great post Rhonda, thank\’s for sharing !


  11. Angel eyes
    Mar 19, 2009 @ 03:03:54

    wonderful post dear angel eyes


  12. Zeynep
    Mar 19, 2009 @ 03:35:18

    I love this post!! And I could open your space easily today. Have a nice day Rhonda, love and peace, Zeynep xx


  13. Dianne
    Mar 19, 2009 @ 09:30:31

    Good Morning Rhonda, Yes children are great imitators of what they see and hear. We as adults have a great responsability to our children and those of others. This is a great post and one we should all take seriously.Thankyou for the beautiful flower you gave me in my guestbook. You are so thoughtful and I do apprecate it. Hope you have a good day. You are in my thought and prayers my friend. Hugs and Smiles , Dianne 🙂


  14. freckles
    Mar 19, 2009 @ 14:58:23

    oh how lovely ~x~


  15. Happy
    Mar 19, 2009 @ 17:06:09

    Good afternoon Rhonda, I hope you are well. Thank-you for Guestbook gift. This poem is so amazingly coincidental and is going on fridge for view. I am constantly amazed at some of the zaps of coincidence that happen as I wander cyberspace to visit friends. Thank you for this post. God bless.


  16. Tracey
    Mar 19, 2009 @ 19:02:31

    This is beautiful.


  17. Lizzie-Beth4Him
    Mar 20, 2009 @ 21:55:46

    Having my first child became an eye opener in realizing many of the things mentioned in this blog. To know that the things I did and said would be a pattern for him, and that my own knowledge and experience were not enough to fill the awesome job and title of being "a parent" and "Mom". It caused me to search my heart and see how much I needed the Lord, not only for myself, but to help me in those roles.


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